Mirror, mirror on the wall

Hear me, see me, acknowledge me. Themes throughout my life that showed up as not being seen, nog being heard and not being acknowledged. People and situations that mirrored me all of this over and over again, but I couldn’t see what they were trying to show me by their words and actions.

As a soul I choose my lessons for this life and this came with experiences and people that brought trauma and bad experiences. Mostly in the first 7 years of our lives we get these lessons instilled in us and we are confronted with them throughout the rest of our life. Unfortunately we are not taught how we can see our lessons let alone solve them and therefor we struggle as humans. We fight, judge and point fingers outside of ourselves when we are triggered.

Our reaction comes from our upbringing, our culture, our trauma’s, our experiences, our ancestral lines, our parallel lives(some call it past lives), etc. Therefor if you say something to ten people, most likely they all will react differently to what you are saying, therefor it is never the other who makes you react, it is you.

When I was able to see this I went into a dark night off the soul. It made me confront my deepest shadows and pain. In the end it brought the deepest healing I ever experienced. I had to first learn to hear, see and acknowledge myself. Now all that is still connected to old beliefs is falling away one by one. Is this always easy? No! Being able to fully surrender and trust goes hand in hand with all of this, but that will be another post.

I now look at my old mirrors and am feel so much gratitude and love for them trying to show me my lessons, when I wasn’t able yet to see what I needed to see. That doesn’t mean I will not put up boundaries or walk away. They also have to look into the mirror that you are trying to show them and not everyone is capable of doing that. Don’t just stick around because you hope they one day will. Just look into the part that you were triggered by and sit with it, let clarity come in and do what is best for you.

I am curious, which themes/mirrors have been showing up in your life?